10 things that happen when my husband is away

Last weekend my husband was away overnight for a friends stag do, which meant after a long day keeping the children alive I had no help at teatime, bedtime or at the christening we were attending the next day. I am still exhausted from it, I’m seriously not cut out to do this parenting thing alone! If you have a spouse in the military or are a single parent, feel free to judge my complete incompetence for not being able to keep it together for 24 hours! Anyway, here’s what happens when he’s gone overnight.

  1. We eat pizza for tea. Normally we pick a kid each and try to get them to eat, Annie needs constant cheerleading or she will talk until it goes cold and Evan needs to be given his food bit by bit or he will feed his to the dog. I am not making a home-cooked meal for three then fighting with them to eat it, I’m taking the easy route and giving them what they want!
  2. We make unnecessary trips to get out of the house. I get a bit stir-crazy when I’m inside all day, so even if it’s bad weather we’ll go on a quick dog walk or go to the corner shop so I can clear my head, though Annie will obviously ask all the very urgent questions about life that pop into her head as we walk so it’s not really that relaxing!

    Letting Annie walk Bob because it takes longer

  3. We stay up too late. Trying to get two children to sleep is no joke even when both of us are home, I’ve already written about Annie’s ridiculous bedtime routine and Evan is pretty unpredictable so the easiest way to do it is to wait until later than their normal bedtime and try to get Annie to sleep after Evan. I of course fell asleep in Annie’s room after they both fought sleep until close to 10pm and when I got downstairs it was close to midnight (wild Saturday night!).
  4. The house is a mess. This one could be because of staying up too late, I normally tidy up after the kids are in bed but it was too late and then I spent the morning trying to make sure we got to the church in time for the christening, so by the time Stu got home it did look like a tornado had hit the living room!
  5. I have crazy thoughts. When a bird flies into the window, there’s no one to reassure you that it was just a bird and not a murderer trying to get in, I lock the doors at 6pm and check them every half hour again because of those sneaky murderers and did the fridge always make that noise or is it about to blow up? The fear is real!
  6. I forget to eat. This one happens quite a lot of a lunchtime, I won’t manage to feed myself until after Evan is napping. It’s the rushing around trying to get both of them to eat, cleaning food off everything and trying to stop Bob from eating whatever Evan’s thrown at him. Luckily there was pie and peas at the christening I went to, so my friend looked after Evan for a few minutes while I inhaled my food.
  7. Bob worries. Our jack russell terrier will sit and look at the door starting around 5pm when he’s hoping for Stu to come home, he gives up occasionally but every car he hears driving up our street will have him heading for the door again. He will cry at me as if to ask ‘where is he?’ and won’t relax until his pack is back together.
  8. I look like crap. Going out somewhere at a specific time when you have two kids and yourself to get ready is hard work! I can’t leave them alone together for more than 5 minutes without Annie trying to pick Evan up or Evan pulling chunks of Annie’s hair out, which means getting ready in a rush. By the time we got to the party after the christening, my hastily thrown up hair had pretty much fallen out so I resorted to a quick ponytail. I also looked pretty sweaty after chasing Evan up and down the steps of a not so toddler friendly venue!

    You wont see a picture of my face from the christening!

  9. I miss him. Of course I do, it’s so strange sleeping in a bed by myself after we’ve lived together over 10 years. And having to text or call him when the kids do something adorable instead of him being there to see it is not quite the same. Also, as much as I love how chatty my two children are, I REALLY miss adult conversation.
  10. He owes me one. Hands down the best part of him being away! After the christening, I took the kids home, greeted my husband with a brew and a moan about how hard the kids had been and went back out to meet up with friends I’d barely spoken to due to all the toddler chasing. I hadn’t seen them in months so it was lovely to have a catch up and bit of adult conversation.

Do you have any to add? Let me know in the comments!

 

42 Comments

    • anniebobs@hotmail.com
      27 April, 2016 / 9:31 pm

      Oh yes, I needed to escape haha!

  1. 26 April, 2016 / 2:14 pm

    This is very sweet and honest! I don’t blame you for struggling, two young kids definitely sounds like a handful with someone to help, let alone by yourself!

    • anniebobs@hotmail.com
      27 April, 2016 / 9:33 pm

      It’s fine when I know he’s coming home at teatime but not having any time to myself at all just gets to me! I really don’t know how single parents do it!!

  2. 26 April, 2016 / 3:01 pm

    Sounds like my house when my husband is away. No guilt involved at all.

    • anniebobs@hotmail.com
      27 April, 2016 / 9:34 pm

      Not at all!

  3. 26 April, 2016 / 3:15 pm

    It’s funny how our routines can be disrupted and we don’t realize why or how until we take a step back and look at what changed. Staying up too late is so easy when you are left to your own devices isn’t it? 🙂

    • anniebobs@hotmail.com
      27 April, 2016 / 9:36 pm

      I think the kids can tell when I’m outnumbered and try and fight sleep haha!

  4. 26 April, 2016 / 3:19 pm

    Haha. Our lists are very different, but I can relate. Love the last one! 😉

    • anniebobs@hotmail.com
      27 April, 2016 / 9:36 pm

      I NEEDED to get out haha!

    • anniebobs@hotmail.com
      27 April, 2016 / 9:37 pm

      Thank you! 🙂

  5. 26 April, 2016 / 3:54 pm

    hehe I must admit I love number 10 as well… “sorry Hun I had the kids all yesterday now it’s my turn to have some fun!”

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:41 pm

      Definitely, fair’s fair!

  6. 26 April, 2016 / 3:58 pm

    Love this! Might have to do a similar post soon – I’ve noticed I totally splurge on late-night snacks when the hubby is gone 🙂

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:42 pm

      Oh yes I missed that one – though I was too tired for that this time after falling asleep in Annies room!

  7. 26 April, 2016 / 4:00 pm

    Ha! All of this is so true! Thanks for the laugh today 🙂

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:42 pm

      Glad you liked it 🙂

  8. 26 April, 2016 / 4:14 pm

    Yes!!! I hate it when Hubs goes out of town! My mind plays the same tricks on me! Was that wind/a cat, or is someone really scratching on my window? But I’m the opposite with bedtimes. I somehow manage to everyone in bed earlier – I’m ready for that break!

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:44 pm

      If only they would sleep, I’d get them up earlier for sure!! But yes those noises… totally terrifying haha!

  9. 26 April, 2016 / 4:37 pm

    So much reality here! I had to go solo for about ten days when my baby was only 10 months while my man went hunting. It was honestly beyond hard for the first few days, but once she got used to him being gone it was much better. Not something I relish doing again though!!

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:45 pm

      Wow that sounds tough! I think the longest I’ve had to do is 4 days, luckily he’s not away that often!

  10. 26 April, 2016 / 6:25 pm

    this made me laugh so hard! While I don’t have kids, I can agree with all of these thoughts when my husband is gone!

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:47 pm

      The noises always used to get me, even before kids! Terrifying!

  11. 26 April, 2016 / 7:26 pm

    Oh, I can definitely relate to some of these – particularly number 5! The smallest sounds freak me out for some reason.

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:47 pm

      Haha me too, maybe it’s because we don’t normally hear them.

  12. 26 April, 2016 / 7:37 pm

    That was a fun read! I might also look like a mess and eat pizza!

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:48 pm

      Glad I’m not the only one!

  13. 27 April, 2016 / 5:39 am

    Oh dear goodness, my life falls apart when my husband is away too! 😉

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:49 pm

      Haha I wouldn’t go that far! I’m just definitely ready to leave the house by myself for a few hours 🙂

  14. 27 April, 2016 / 3:30 pm

    This brings back fun memories of when my kids were little.

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:50 pm

      It really is fun. This post might not sound it haha but it is!

  15. 27 April, 2016 / 6:45 pm

    This is so true! I don’t have kids, but when I husband is away I find myself getting stir crazy when I’m stuck inside and I make random unnecessary errands to get me out of the house.

    • Alison
      27 April, 2016 / 9:52 pm

      It’s really strange isn’t it, the house just doesn’t feel right without them there.

  16. 29 April, 2016 / 5:56 pm

    If my husband is out of town for a weekend, I’m lucky if I get one real meal. Left to my own devices, I can snack for days.

    • Alison
      5 May, 2016 / 11:41 pm

      I’m the same! I’ll sort the kids but I’m a total snacker on my own.

  17. 30 April, 2016 / 11:49 pm

    Oh man and I thought the dog was hard to take care! When my husbands away I watch marathons of Call the Midwife and other shows he can’t stand, some day all that will change so I will cherish it for now!

    • Alison
      5 May, 2016 / 11:42 pm

      The dogs the easiest part haha! Oh I love call the midwife too 🙂

  18. 2 May, 2016 / 8:41 am

    Love this! My husband is amazing and such an important part of the family and does so much for the kids. I definitely feel his absence when he isn’t around. 🙂

    • Alison
      5 May, 2016 / 11:42 pm

      It’s nice that they’re so involved isn’t it 🙂

  19. 3 May, 2016 / 5:24 pm

    Hi Alison,

    Oh my, so much truth in this post! I don’t have children but I keep hearing my aunts complaining with my uncles leave their house for work and they have to take care of the kids alone. So you are definitely not alone on that!

    Zaria

    • Alison
      5 May, 2016 / 11:43 pm

      Thanks, he is definitely missed when he’s not around!